Forgiving isn't that hard after all.

Bought this adorable ear cuff from topshop. As usual, it was on impulse. But I have no regrets whatsoever.

Forgive and Forget.

It's sometimes harder to do the latter. Most people can't even do it, maybe they shouldn't so as to protect themselves from hurting in the future. But what if instead of forgetting, we retell it? Instead of you telling the story which portrays you as the victim, rewrite it. Instead of justifying and defending our pain, we just banish it and let go. It's difficult for me to do, I admit, because I am a very defensive person but I've learned that once you let go, the pain and burden from your shoulders are gone. It just vanishes.

For too long I've been playing the victim card.Often getting attention and sympathy by being a victim or by being right or being wronged. If we're invested in the villain, we must really enjoy being the victim.  I used to tell the same stories about my ex boyfriend. Tales that he abandoned me, he left me when I needed him the most and all those things. Let me retell it now. My ex boyfriend loved me the best that he could but for some reason, he wasn't capable to give me more. It had nothing to do with me. I can't take it personally because ever since we got together, I've never changed. I didn't adapt to new habits, old habits didn't die and my personality remained. I did nothing wrong. Things just didn't work out, that's all. 

From grief to forgiveness to freedom. Forgiveness is giving up the hope to make a better past. What's done is done. Sounds harsh, yes. But once you learn to let go of how you wanted your past to be, you can change the present and work on a better future. 

Some say forgiveness is a process. That's true, but it all starts with 1 thing. A decision. A decision to let go. Once you've decided to change your story, you will get your happy ending.