I don't think you understand the meaning of courting. When I say, you have to court me first, it means that you'd have to attract my attention. You'd have to gain my love. You HAVE to outshine the other guys that might possibly be courting me as well.
I do not have to stay focused on your courtship, I do not have to stay loyal to you and I certainly will not block out the others who are trying.
Do your best and in the end, it's still my call. I call the shots for this one. What's life without a little competition eh? Don't like it? Then scram!

Courting is not "in the process". It's "the big chase", if you'd like me to phrase it that way.